Just walk away.... I tell myself this all the time and most of the time, it works... but sometimes we find that one trigger, that one thing that gets us fired up and touches a cord deep inside.
I did that the other day. I couldn't walk away, instead I engaged and I let my fear speak. It didn't change anything, didn't change anyone's mind, didn't even come out the way I thought it would.
When I finally realized what I was doing and how it was making me feel inside, I stopped everything. I started to chastise myself for it all when I realized the gift this trigger had given me...
The gift of awareness. Awareness of my trigger means that I can pick it up and look at it now. I can examine it, how it affects me, what I’m getting from it, and where it came from. After all, there’s a saying, “if I reveal it, I can heal it!” I can heal that sucker! I can suck the fear right out of that limiting belief and open up so much space in my life, in my heart, in my soul!
I am so grateful for the person who helped bring this trigger to the forefront of my awareness. I can and will heal it and that is a true gift!
If I can do it, you can too!
So many of us have been through incredible traumas in our lives and though we may have raised a family, run a business or made it through life quite successfully, we still feel that something is missing. There are unfulfilled expectations and a feeling that there is more to life than this going through the motions bullshit. We may have even spent years in therapy, thinking that we’ve healed all those wounds only to be triggered by some seemingly small comment or circumstance and we are derailed. Beating ourselves up, telling ourselves whatever lies keep us in these patterns of sabotage and suffering.
We don’t have to live like that, we don’t have to be held hostage by our past or limited to mediocrity and someone else’s idea of who we are. We don’t have to be ruled by our emotions, our patterns of thinking and behavior. There is a way out and you are the key.
Awareness is always the first step. We don’t know what we don’t know. Once we do know that we don’t know, we are on the right track. We can learn how to take that awareness and create true and permanent healing. By being honest with yourself, taking responsibility for what is yours and having compassion for believing your thoughts. It’s not easy, nor is it quick, but in the end it is most definitely worth it!